How to Stay Single Forever as a Single Dad
(Hint: Just keep blaming women like an undateable online troll)
Women are the problem.
They’re cheaters, homewreckers, gold diggers, and narcissists. That’s what an angry dad told me in a Facebook group last week. Ouch.
I wanted to ask, “Who pissed in your cornflakes this morning bro?”
But I didn’t. Because this isn’t just one dad ranting.
This belief system — this anger — echoes through online spaces where single dads gather. A place where pain turns into bitterness, where frustration calcifies into resentment.
Being a single dad is challenging. You need support. Seeking brotherhood from men with a shared lived experience is the right call. But there’s a right and a wrong way to go about it.
Let me show you the right way.
Does this sound familiar?
You’re broken.
Burnt out. Beaten down by custody battles, financial strains, and 100% grade-A grief.
You feel discarded by your ex. Like dating is rigged against men. Confused about your place as a man in 2025. Disconnected from your kids. Bitter. Lost. Unsupported.
And in that frustration, it’s easy to fall into the trap of blaming them.
Naturally, you search for answers. For community. For men who share your experience of loss and adversity. You want brotherhood.
And the internet delivers.
Your social media algorithms start feeding you Jordan Peterson breakdowns and Andrew Tate rants. The anger feels validating. The message is seductive: It’s not your fault. The system is against you. Women are the enemy.
Before you know it, you’ve stepped into an echo chamber that reinforces the cycle of negativity. There is no healing to be found here. Growth and transformation are stifled.
You went looking for men to validate your resentment. And you found them.
Congratulations. Is it helping you move forward?
You’re not wrong
You did the right thing looking for community.
Dealing with your ex is hard. The emptiness you feel when your kids aren’t there is hard. Loneliness and isolation are hard. Feeling invisible and undervalued as a dad is hard. Depression, frustration, a sense of failure…
It’s hard. It’s very hard.
But don’t let it harden you.
Don’t let this crucible calcify into hatred towards your ex. Towards women. Don’t listen to anyone who wants to drag you down into their gender bashing fest with them.
Resentment is a trap. It feels good. Righteous even. That’s why you gravitate towards it. Anger feels more powerful than helplessness. And you’re tired of feeling vulnerable.
But it’s a vampire sucking the life out of you.
These struggles are real, but staying stuck in resentment will only deepen the pain. Investing in all this frustration actually makes you less powerful. It hands control over to your ex and the social narrative.
You need to find a source of community that doesn’t feed your worst impulses. That challenges you. Forces you to grow.
Not one that confirms your toxic biases.
I help dads rebuild their confidence after divorce—so they can show up stronger, better, and more unstoppable for their kids in just 12 weeks. Ready to stop feeling stuck and step into your next-level self? Reach out HERE.
Let’s make this your 3.0 comeback story.
Focus on what you can control
Posting cynical Tinder screenshots isn’t power.
Blasting your ex in toxic Messenger threads isn’t power.
Ranting in online echo chambers isn’t power.
Real power comes from taking responsibility for what you can control: Your mindset, habits, and personal growth. You won’t have a good life until you choose to shift your mindset.
Instead of seeking validation for your pain, instead of “justice”, focus on becoming the type of man who your kids will be proud of. Guard what goes into your mind. The content you consume shapes your thoughts, emotions, and actions.
Then reframe all those frustrations that make you sad, angry, and bitter.
Your time without your kids? Use it to invest in yourself.
No partner right now? Use this time to level up mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Feeling alone? Find or build a real brotherhood of men who want to grow, not just complain.
There are dads out there who are tired of the anger and want to move forward.
Are you one of them?
Get out of the echo chamber
Do you want to stay trapped in your anger?
Or become someone your kids will be proud of when they deliver your eulogy?
I’ll tell you what they don’t want: a bitter, broken man, defined by his pain and frustrations. They need a strong, grounded man who rises above resentment and leads by example. Who treats women — no, everyone — with respect, no matter what perceived sleight they feel.
You are not powerless. You can take a different path.
One focused on growth, resilience, and purpose instead of bitterness.
Join a group focused on growth instead of toxicity. Find a tribe who will push you forward.
Join us 🙋♂️
Every week I run a group call for dads who want to rise above their shit, take responsibility, and actually lead their kids.
It’s NOT place for men who want to bitch about women and fight for their excuses.
If you’re done with the negativity and ready to break the cycle, come join us. We’re here to move forward, not stay stuck in the past.
Here’s the details:
90 days from now, you could be more confident, taking bigger risks, and fully enjoying fatherhood—with a clear head, free from constant negativity. I’ll show you how.
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For more dadsplaining, check out my last edition. I shared the #1 tweak you need to make to your parenting to stop being a weekend dad:
Hi, I am a mother who has experienced the pain of divorce. I just wanted to say that I think your posts are great and I appreciate you empowering single dads in such a positive way. The world needs more of this.